– should you move house now, when you might be leaving the
country in 2 years?
– bigger house with lovely garden versus less space and shorter commute?
– should you change your current home or move, when both options
feel expensive and inconvenient?
– should you try to have peace talks with a friend who broke your
trust and made your nightmare neighbours situation worse?
– the importance of listening to your heart when making house-y decisions
– the importance of questioning thoughts like ‘Moving to a flat feels like a backward step’
– should you sell your house for a huge amount of money, or keep it as your ideal family home?
– how to stop sitting on the fence about moving to the country (and a brilliant strategy for whenever you don’t know if you want to move or not)
– how to deal with jealousy when your friend has just bought your dream house
– the importance of understanding why we feel trapped in particular houses
– should you downsize, when your house is already quite small, and when moving would require spending more money?
– should you spend the four weeks between house sale and new house purchase having a fun time in New York, or should you ‘be sensible’?
– should you buy a second home in your top fave place of all, or in a closer place that you could get to more often?
– what to do when your house is making it easy for you to think depression-creating thoughts, and you can’t afford to spend more money?
“The experience of having a book rejected and then realising later that you wouldn’t have wanted to put it out there as your first published book anyway… that’s a really valuable experience. It enabled you to practise failing, practise feeling the painful feelings that come with disappointing results, and learn that actually events ended up working in your favour despite the pain – because you wouldn’t ultimately have wanted that book to be published. So, you learned how to take your writing to the next level and (although there was some pain) nothing actually went wrong. In this way, we can learn to associate pain and disappointing results (which are always part of any writer’s life, no matter how high-earning or bestselling they are!) with exactly what needs to be happening in order to get us to the next level of our writing lives/selves, rather than (as most people do) with something having gone wrong.”